What does she want from me?

Everyone of us has "needs." We look to our spouses and other family members to meet many of those needs. While we can't force someone else to meet our needs, it is reasonable to expect that the people that you love will demonstrate care for you. One of the ways we show another person that we love them is by trying to meet their needs.

Many couples suffer because they do not address each other's needs in an intentional way. In fact, most of us would have a hard time even articulating what we need from each other. We just know that we are feeling unfulfilled in our relationships. Knowing your needs and being able to share them with those that you love is a great start.

According to Dr. Willard Harley, Here is a list of our most common needs:

- Affection

- Conversation

- Honesty & Openness

- Financial Stability

- Family Involvement

- Sexual Fulfillment

- Recreational Companionship

- Physical Attractiveness of Spouse

- Domestic Support

- Admiration

When these needs are prioritized according to your spouse and met in a sufficient way, the relationship flourishes. When couples become aware and intentional in meeting each other's needs, the romantic feelings increase in the marriage once again. Knowing your spouse's Enneagram type is crucial, but so is knowing their relational needs. Understood together, you begin to have a road map for healing, restoring and revitalizing your marriage.